length: 684 words 2 double spaced pages relationships are impossible, or are they? why is it that most relationships don amp 8217 t work? man meets woman, they date, move in together, get married, have kids and then divorce. What causes a relationship to fall apart, what relationships you should get out of and are there such things as soul mates. These kinds of people also think that their partner won amp 8217 t cheat on them or do anything wrong. A few reasons relationships fall apart are if one partner cheats, they lose interest in each other, lack of communication which causes problems, if you try to change someone and it backfires, and if you hide something you should have told the other person and then they find out about it later. In a relationship you can tell when you amp 8217 re losing interest in each other. Some signs are that you don amp 8217 t talk much with each other, you don amp 8217 t spend time together anymore instead its spent with your friends away from home.

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Some signs to tell if the other person in the relationship is cheating is by the person starts to come home from work later then they usually do, they start to smell like perfume that neither of you have, when you confront them about cheating they get all nervous and deny it, when you ask them why they amp 8217 ve been coming home late from work lately they makeup stupid excuses. And they say there going somewhere but when you phone to see if they are there they aren amp 8217 t. If you amp 8217 re in a relationship and the person does any of these things your relationship could be falling apart. Should you leave or stay in an abusive relationship? the answer to this question as you should know it is leave as soon as you can. The reason you should leave an abusive relationship is because if you don amp 8217 t, you could end up hurt. Most of the time when a person is in this kind of a position they are too scared to leave it because they think the one who is abusing will hurt them more.

Another thing about people who are in this position is that if you suspect they are being abused and you confront them about it they will deny it and change the subject. A few other signs of someone being abused is if they always have bruises all over their body and you ask them what happened it takes them a while to answer and finally when they do answer its something like i accidentally fell down the stairs or i walked into something. These kinds of people should get help fast, like going to the police before something serious happens and they get hurt really bad and end up in the hospital. Soul mate, what is a soul mate? people define a soul mate as someone who likes the same things as they do, they get along with each other perfectly, they know everything about each other.

A few other definitions of a soulmate are that they feel complete when they are with each other and both of them believe its true love. Some people never marry only date because they believe that someday the right person will come along and may just happen to relationships are the way in which two or more people are connected. The relationships that we make in life are very easy to forge however they are not so easy to maintain. In the relationships of biggie and the protagonist in ‘big world’ and that of max and raelene in’ the turning’ both by tim winton, we see relationships forged, and then fall apart very rapidly. Between biggie and the protagonist we see absolute loyalty resulting in the downfall of the relationship. In ‘the turning’ a once loving and strong relationship becomes one of violence. Through idiom, simile, colloquial language and irony winton expresses that relationships are easy to forge but not so easy to maintain.

Loyalty is one of the fundamental traits that are present in a successful relationship. Without loyalty doubts of trust and lack of respect begin to come to the fore and relationships begin to crumble. Within the relationship of biggie and the protagonists, loyalty is the most important factor as to why the relationship began. He would often do biggie’s schoolwork out of loyalty regardless of the consequences of his marks. This show absolute loyalty towards biggie and that the friendship was forged easy. However absolute loyalty towards a person is not always the absolute criteria for a successful relationship.

Within every relationship some form of loyalty will be present that contributes to the successful relationship. However, absolute loyalty can lead to deterioration in a person’s quality of life and happiness. We see the protagonist in ‘big world’ be totally loyal to biggie regardless of the consequences. He blames himself for biggie’s inability to try at school in the line, i feel responsible, like my ghost work stopped him from learning. The idiom shows the protagonist all though at no fault his absolute loyalty towards biggie leads to his results and happiness being extremely lowered and he realised this when he states, friendship, i suppose, comes at a price.

Loyalty is a trait that helps forge a relationship but can also destroy a relationship. The emotion of strong affection and personal attachment is a trait that without a relationship would exist. However this love one that begins out well turns out into one of physical and sexual assault. He stared at her like a hungry man, like she was food, and it made her feel powerful. All night she had tingles knowing he wanted her shows how the love was at first sight between max and raelene. This love that forges the relationship is instant and shows how easy this relationship was formed. One sided love can lead to problems in a relationship and affects someone’s overall happiness in life.

The love that raelene has for max is one that results in her being oblivious to the massive change in max’s behaviour. Through the colloquial language use of ‘bastard’ we see raelene’s belief on what she thinks max is. Thus, expressing the one sided love in the relationship and how raelene manipulates the situation to make it seem better than it is. Love although results in easy forged relationships can often make it not so easy to maintain them. Violence is a key theme that is expressed in ‘the turning’ between raelene and max. Whether it’s a white lie or just a straight up lie, the truth is always better to know. Paul thaler, the author of the lies that bind, believes that lying isn’t bad in a relationship.

He sees the truth as being hurtful and less important, most lies as inconsequential, and lies as a truer reflection of love than the truth. I think lying is the worst thing we can do to each other as humans besides physical abuse. Lying hurts people emotionally and can become addicting, and the truth will eventually always come out. Lying to someone you care about can result in you losing that person from your life. It hurts because it’s hard to cope with the fact that someone you trusted would lie to you. The truth may hurt, but i guarantee majority of the population would rather know the truth. Falling in love meant the building of trust, honesty, and openness the coming together of two hearts, two minds, thaler stated when you are in love you should have those factors of trust, honesty, and openness.

I was with my ex boyfriend for four years and through all those years he lied to me about having feelings towards other girls whenever i asked him. I found out that he had been cheating on me about a year ago, and there aren’t enough words to explain how stupid, hurt, and angry i felt. His reasoning for lying was to not hurt me.’ little did he know that knowing the truth would have saved me from the embarrassment i felt, and the resentment i feel towards him today.